8 Steps to De-stress your Life

Feeling overwhelmed? Life rushing past you? Too much to do and too little time? If this sounds familiar to you, then it’s time to simplify your life!

1. Get a big-picture perspective on your life:
What do you really want in your life? What are your goals? When you die what do you want to be known for?

Exercise: Imagine you are 80 years old sitting in your comfortable chair by a warm fire. Imagine that you are looking back upon your life and ask yourself these questions: Have I done everything I wanted to do? Is there anything I regret not doing?

Based on your answers to these questions you will know whether you need to take steps to change your life.

2. Declutter personal surroundings: It has been proven that the more items you possess the more stress you experience. Decluttering your personal space calms the mind. Use freecycle.org or charity shops to give away unwanted items and clothing, or sell on local Facebook pages. A general rule of thumb (especially for clothing) is if you haven’t used or worn it in the last 12 months you don’t need it.

3. Make more You Time. Being a parent/ spouse/ sibling/ friend/ employer or employee/ mentor or coach/ grandparent etc it’s all exhausting!
Make more time?! Are you kidding me?! No. It is vital to your emotional and mental well-being to make time for you on a regular basis. It’s time to delegate tasks or chores, learn to say no to requests that still more time more energy than you already have, relinquish obligations that no longer fulfil or inspire you. Give something up; we all have things we’ve tied ourselves into that we wish we hadn’t: Extra hours at work, babysitting, shopping more often than necessary, whatever these are for you. Relinquish stressful or unnecessary obligations wherever you can.

4. Take up a form of mindfulness relaxation or meditation.
There are a multitude of relaxation apps as well as audio tracks on YouTube you can download for free, or for a few pounds. You can choose from guided relaxations, for example walks in nature, or breathing exercises, or guided physical relaxation. There are nature soundtracks; waterfalls, birdsong, babbling brook, thunder and lightning or rainstorms.
Self-ypnosis audio sessions are great for insomnia, reducing stress and increasing self-confidence and self-esteem.

5. Look after yourself. Body and mind need a balanced diet of nourishment, rest and exercise (movement!). Eat healthily, move your body regularly, and relax on a regular basis. You don’t have to join a gym, just make sure you’re moving more than sitting everyday, where possible.

6. Increase your social circle. Having friends and being social decreases stress and depression. You don’t have to spend a lot of money going out, create a circle of Friends that meet in each others houses. Choose friends who are positive and aligned with your own interests. What’s the support in times of crisis and can offer creative solutions and advice at each new crosswords in your life. Balance is essential his friends that are willing to give to you as well as take from you.

7. Games Focus. No way you are going and the steps you need to take to make it happen. It’s great to feel like you want to just wing it through life, but it create unnecessary stress. Even if you are against making long-term plan idea of the direction you want to head in, it makes life a lot easier.
Often stress comes from incessant unfocused action, literally ‘running around in circles.’ and we’ve all been there! Gaining focus helps us stay on track. Yes we’ll get distracted from our path, that’s life, but if we ultimately know where we’re headed we can soon get back on track.

8. Follow your dreams. An unfulfilled life is a sad life. Putting aside your dreams or putting off what do you really want to do, for whatever reasons, is not fulfilling your potential. And fulfilling your potential is what you are here to do. If you want to travel do it. Don’t put it off until ‘later,’ ‘when I’m 50,’ ‘when I retire.’ that day may never arrive, be physically able to do it.
So if you want to do it, do it now.

It may seem like your to-do list just got a lot longer! But don’t panic! This is about swapping out what you don’t want with what you do. Opting out of things that no longer work for you.
It’s about ceasing the endless running around and focusing on what’s important to you in your life, for however long you have it.
It’s about Letting Go; about making room for new exciting things to come into your life. Attracting things that will excite you, nourish you and sustain your soul.
So go ahead and do it. Do it now.

Deborah J Monshin BSc C.Hyp. MPLTA Hypnotherapist and Regression Specialist